A big question doubting friends might ask if you tell them about this stuff is ‘What type of girls does this attract?’
A lot of zealous PUAs look down upon this question (or any question that doubts their PUA religion I find), I was one of them, but I’m starting to open my eyes a little and find it to be a valid question.
The bottom line is that there are traits that are universally attractive about men, and these traits will be attractive to the majority of women, no matter how ‘nice’ or refined they are.
Another side to this is, whatever kind of person you are will likely attract the same types of people into your life; ‘birds of a feather flock together’ as the saying goes.
A Veneer of Self Improvement
In that case, if a PUA looks upon seduction mastery as covering up the shitty person he is, with lines, tricks and techniques, then this is not going to attract a type of girl who is cool, balanced, and a nice person to be around.
You cannot fool all of the people all of the time, and if you think you can put on the act of a cool, balanced guy just when girls are present, you are in for a lot of hard work; the cracks will show.
A lot of the guru’s in this community taught these ‘dismantling the bomb’ type methods, and because they made a living where they go out daily to apply these complex methods, they make it successful. The problem is these external methods are very high maintenance.
This was actually my approach for a long time, and I found I would require around 50-100 regular nights out before I could even begin to get a girl to go home with me (we’re talking weeks of going out daily), it took that much practice for me to ‘get my act right’, and even then the girls who wanted to spend time with me were not my ideal, because they had the same negative traits I had within myself. And as soon as I stopped going out for even a few weeks, I would find myself back to square one, the same guy I always was, needing to go out another 50-100 times before I could ‘get laid’.
Genuine Self Improvement.
If this same PUA was to dig deeper within himself, and focus on genuine self-improvement, building the confidence to truly accept and express himself, and get his value from within so much that he is not desperate for external validation, then this person can stroll through life effortlessly, attracting the women of his dreams.
This takes work, and seems harder, but it seems preferable to me after trying the former approach, because I know that genuine self improvement will last me a lifetime.
‘Just Offer Value and Don’t Give a ****’
Well, my Pick Up Artist path is similar to Bill Murray in Groundhog Day (which also brilliantly sums up this teaching). I began to find that going out with the sole objective of ‘offer value and don’t give a fuck’ had massive results, two girls approach me, one was an extremely hot girl who asked me to dance, something that had never happened to me in 4 years of going out to ‘get laid’ using various methods.
I found that the structures, routines, techniques and games I played were all a cumbersome placebo, I thought these lines were doing the work for me, when really they were allowing me to feel confident about myself, and this is what created the attraction all along.
I hope you come to my conclusion quicker than I did (4 years!), or at least have faith in my experience which I offer here.
The formula:
Unbalanced, value seeking guy Attracts –> Unbalanced, value seeking girl
Balanced, value offering guy Attracts –> Balanced, value offering girl
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